A woman who tells it like it is, author and journalist Mary Lou Weisman

Author and Journalist Mary Lou Weisman

Author and Journalist Mary Lou Weisman

Putting a pen to words is an art, indeed a gift.  Especially when those words have the power to change lives.   Mary Lou Weisman was born in 1937 in Fairfield, Connecticut to a mother who believed that writing thank you notes was a high art, and to a father who was convinced that one of the great joys in life was the pursuit of the right word.   According to Mary Lou, he was right and so was her mother.   Mary Lou became a writer at the age of seven, mainly due to her father’s influence.  Although initially she protested writing anything at all, she ultimately came to learn about gratitude and enjoyed searching for the right words to put on the notes.  She couldn’t  just write “Thank you, love Mary-Lou” when she received gifts.  She felt compelled to both acknowledge it and graciously go on to tell the person who gave it to her exactly how she was going to use or enjoy their gift.

Later in life, unlike many of her classmates, she found she enjoyed writing term papers.   She recalls two college literature teachers who complimented her on her writing ability.  They were instrumental in helping Mary Lou take herself seriously as a writer.  She feels she owes them a lot.  Mary Lou obtained a solid liberal arts education, married, and secured a position as “clerk typist” in what was called, laughably, “a job in publishing.” The salary at that time during the 60s was a whopping  $62.50 a week.   She believed she was on her way to a career in journalism.

To this day, Mary Lou laughs at her unlikely success.  She believes she’s still a work in progress, despite having published numerous books, articles, and journalistic works.   At first she wasn’t sure she had the stamina for writing.  Every single writing job involved an initial anxiety attack, but once she delved into the project, she found she loved the process.  She describes the culmination of a writing project and the ultimate payoff as a thrilling sense of resolution and accomplishment.   For Mary Lou, writing has become not only her career, but a passion.   When she first began, she had no other ambition than merely to write.  But over the years, she has fallen in love with the process.   Of course Mary Lou still gets disappointed if her writing project gets rejected, but she never regrets having written.

Mary Lou is inspired still by her parents. Even though they had no intention of making a writer out of her, inadvertently through her mother’s interest in basic writing skills and good manners, and her father’s love of words, they did so. Later on, the professionals in her life, helped her to do her best. Mary Lou’s first newspaper editor, Paul Good, remarked, “You don’t write bad for a housewife, kiddo.”   Some women might have taken offense to that, but for Mary Lou, it made her day. He was no feminist, but, hey, she was happy for the compliment. Further into her career, the editor of Woman’s Day, Ellen Levine, would invariably return her work back two or three times. Saying it could be better, without giving details, Levine never revealed what about the work she didn’t like. Ultimately, Mary Lou realized that there wasn’t anything specific Levine didn’t like. What she was trying to teach her was the life lesson that everything can always be better.

Despite working during the sixties, pre-women’s lib, Mary Lou remained naïve of any ways in which she’d ever been discriminated against as a woman.  She believes this largely to be because she normally worked alone or among other women and did not compete with men directly in the marketplace.  Although she’s never experienced a male writer, for instance, being chosen over her, Mary Lou constantly runs into a prejudice against women writers.  She believes, that tendency is reflective of a lingering prejudice against women in general.  If someone, male or female, asks her what she“does,” Mary Lou answers that she’s a writer. Often their next question is, “Have you been published?”  She suspects that if she were a man, they wouldn’t ask her that question.

Mary Lou has written five books and scads of newspaper and magazine articles, all of which she considers to have been very rewarding. One of the books, MY MIDDLE-AGED BABY BOOK was a bestseller. Despite that commercial success, the book INTENSIVE CARE has given her the greatest sense of accomplishment.   Not just because the book is about her beloved son Peter, who died at the young age of sixteen from Duchenne’s Muscular Dystrophy, although that was enough to make it her most rewarding experience.  -and not because it received high praise from literary critics, although she is humbled and rewarded by that, too. It is because so many mothers and fathers of children with Duchenne’s Muscular Dystrophy and other life-threatening diseases have written to Mary Lou, including myself, to thank her for writing an honest, unsentimental  book.  Mary Lou’s description of the painful saga is frank and unforgiving.  From the very first chapter, she tells it like it is.  Organizations like The Parent Project Muscular Dystrophy recommend that all families read this valuable life lesson.  These families thank her for acknowledging how difficult their journey is, for inspiring them and for giving them the courage to go on.

Mary Lou Weisman Intensive Care

An intense look at demanding care.

Mary Lou is humbled that she was named a Belle of Steel.  For her, writing is her passion.  According the Mary Lou, “As anyone who has had a passion for anything – caring for the elderly, rearing children, playing the violin, fixing cars, teaching, — knows, passion is a strong driving force. If that passion is reinforced by talent, discipline, and a determination to persist in the face of rejection, you are likely to succeed.”

My Middle Aged Baby Book Mary Lou Weisman

Best Seller!

When asked what she hoped to be doing five years from now, again she was frank and honest.   First and foremost, she’d like to be 81 and alive. Given that gift, she’d still like to be writing, teaching writing, enjoying her husband, grandchildren and friends, and traveling.  But she supposes she won’t be riding her bike by then.

For her courage in writing the truth about an unpopular and devastating disease, and the book that has changed the lives of so many families, including mine, who face the battle of Duchenne’s, AgeView Press is proud to name Mary Lou Weisman its eleventh Belle of Steel.

Contact Mary Lou Weisman at www.marylouweisman.com


World changer and World Health Hero Pat Furlong – Belle of Steel # 4

Founder of Parent Project Muscular Dystrophy Pat Furlong

A mother, a nurse, meet World Health Hero Pat Furlong!

In 1969, a young, single Catholic woman graduated from college with a double major, nursing and education.   She was bubbly and vivacious with her curly brown locks.   It was remarkable to the nuns of the all-girls Catholic college who had told her she would never make a nurse.    Her social priorities overshadowed her academic prowness.   At her graduation party, her parents asked her what she wanted for her present.   She looked over at her fiancé, directly.   “More than anything else, I want not to be engaged.”     She stunned the room to silence.

This is just one example of the  “I dare you to say no” dogged tenacity of Pat Furlong.    Motivated by a German mother who was a silent feminist before her time,  Pat moved out of her parent’s home in Cincinnati, Ohio shortly after.  She moved to Columbus, got her first job as a nurse in the Medical Intensive Care Unit and started graduate school at Ohio State.   She just had to learn more about this fascinating thing called the body.   She wanted to know how each cell worked implicitly with the others.    For the first time, Pat felt free and independent.   And it was liberating!

Pat Furlong is now the Founding President and CEO of Parent Project Muscular Dystrophy (PPMD), now the largest nonprofit organization in the United States solely focused on Duchenne muscular dystrophy.   Its mission is to improve the treatment, quality of life, overall care and outlook through research for all individuals affected by this monstrously degenerative, childhood disorder.   Duchenne is the most common fatal, genetic disease which affects 1 out every 3,500 boys each year worldwide.   It currently has no cure.

But Pat Furlong and her team are working to change all that.    In 1984, when both of her boys were diagnosed with Duchenne,  Pat simply could not accept as a mother and as a nurse, the physician’s “there’s no hope and little help. . .they’ll lose the ability to walk, then lose their upper arm strength, then. . lose their life by age 20.”   She wasn’t afraid to tell any doctor just what she thought.  Their answers were not good enough.

Pat’s nursing journey had taken her from the bedside, to patient educator and advocate.   Garnering her gumption Pat immersed herself in learning everything there was to learn about Duchenne.   There was no internet, she physically went to medical libraries and ordered articles and copies of research studies.     She presented herself, not as the teary-eyed mother of two dying boys looking for a miracle.  She knew better.   No, Pat got her foot in many doors, by selling her advocacy as a post-graduate student on a mission of research.   Sadly, there seemed to be no general concensus or standard of care about just what were the best treatment options.  Everyone seemed to be doing their own thing.   It was appalling.  Funding for research was minimal.  No one wanted to hear about a rare genetic disorder.

But for Pat, it wasn’t rare, it was destroying her boy’s muscles, one cell at a time.   And time was running out.   Tragically, both her boys lost their battle with Duchenne in their early teens.   But that didn’t stop Pat.   In fact, standing over their graves, she decided there and then she would not stop until there was a cure.    She remembered her boys telling her, “don’t do it for us, do it for the many.  Miracles aren’t just for one.”

Pat began gathering people around her to ask the tough questions.    With each visit to each expert she asked, “What do we know?   What do we need to know?  What’s the standard of care?  Who’s doing something about it?   And most importantly . . . who’s investing?”   At point in time, the Muscular Dystrophy Association was only investing about a one million a year.   That simply wasn’t enough to fund a cure.  Many feds, the movers and shakers in DC had never even heard of the disease.  It wasn’t on the National Institute of Health’s radar screen because it was a rare disorder.    There were many that told her “just go home.”

But Pat wouldn’t give up.  She had to do it.  She promised her boys.   The defective gene had been isolated back in 1987, but yet there still was no cure.  Pat transformed all of the pain and anger that resulted from profound grief into an unrivaled, energized force.    A DC lobbyist had contacted her; his son was diagnosed with Duchenne’s.    Pat turned to him for advice on how to get Washington to notice.    Gathering a group of other parents of young men with Duchenne, Pat founded PPMD to change to course of this disease.

In 1996, they put on the first-ever  NIH workshop on Duchenne, harnessing a consortium of experts from around the world.   Earning seed funds, they hired a powerful team of DC lobbyists.   There was legislation needed to garner increased funding for research.   In 2001, Senator Arlen Specter took note.   PPMD drafted the MD Care Act, laying out plans for Centers of Excellence to establish standards of care across the nation.

Sam Killian advocate for DMD

One of our Texas DMD boys, advocate Sam Killian.

Pat’s perseverance for her sons paid off.   The legislation passed in Feb of 2001 infusing over 400 million dollars in pivotal Duchenne research.   The NIH took notice which gave researchers a credibility factor.  The moment was literally life changing for many.    In 2010, in the medical journal The Lancet, 180 physicians published a consensus of care considerations for Duchenne.   But the work still is not done.   Pat has bigger plans.   During the next few crucial years of research, as drugs are developed to genetically re-engineer the destructive forces of Duchenne, Pat hopes to see herself smiling.   Her goal is to see more development in combined therapies for Duchenne, more early diagnosis and thus earlier intervention.  She dreams to see boys still walking at 17 and 18.   More extension of life expectancy into the middle thirties, maybe forties.The New Yorker named Pat a World Changer in 2010.  WebMD designated her as a World Health Hero the same year.   She is a top leader at the Institute of Medicine and the FDA.

When asked what makes her successful, Pat describes, “I’m a consummate pest!  If I want something and I know it’s right, I just will not give up.  The pain of losing your children has a ripple effect that lasts forever.  Not a day goes by that I don’t miss my boys.    I channel that pain into productivity.”

For Pat, indeed the mission and the message aren’t over.   For her unbridled passion and stoic, gutsiness to move mountains in a sea of bureaucracy . . . all to save our boys, AgeView Press is proud to honor Belle of Steel number four – the truly amazing Pat Furlong.